It seems to me that one of the worst voices we listen to is that one that is in our head. What do you hear when someone gives you feedback?
If someone is giving constructive criticism do you jump to, “Typical I’ve stuffed up again”.
If someone gives you a compliment do you hear, “They’re just saying that”.
When you achieve fantastic results do you hear, “But I could have done better”.
The voice does not serve you well. It can often sound like a parent, an old teacher, a sibling or a jealous rival. You are best often to ignore or silence the voice. When the voice kicks in, tell yourself; “That is NOT what they are saying” and listen to what the feedback actually is.
When someone is giving you feedback the best thing to do is accept it. You may not agree with it, but there will be value in it. To know someone thinks you have done well or to find ways you can improve what you are doing or to accept that you are not perfect but you are improving is a far more valuable way to deal with this situation.
So what is that voice saying now?
The Get More Guy